Growth means change and
Change means risk, stepping
From the known to the unknown. ̶ Author Unknown
Many of my clients are in such a hurry to get there from here as they might say, “I can’t wait for this to end or be over.” Some want to leap to their final thing whatever it is. I always say to them, going from “A to Z” will not work. I often ask what is their process since they cannot push the metaphorical river? What is it that they could possibly need to see along the way? What are they missing?
Along your way to emotional regulation, impulse control and Ego strength one might consider starting at “A” recognizing that this is where I am starting from now. Then gently moving toward “B or be,” such as “being” present to oneself in the here and now and feeling at home in one’s own skin. Now relax by taking a deep breath with eyes wide open and arriving at “C or see” in order to see the next step in the progression of forward movement in life.
Below is an alphabet poem that simply demonstrates how issues and things can become confused, disordered, showing missing pieces of order in one’s life.
‘Twas midnight in the schoolroom
And every desk was shut
When suddenly from the alphabet
Was heard a loud “Tut-Tut!”
Said A to B, “I don’t like C;
His manners are a lack.
For all I ever see of C
Is a semi-circular back!”
“I disagree,” said D to B,
“I’ve never found C so.
From where I stand he seems to be
An uncompleted O.”
C was vexed, “I’m much perplexed,
You criticize my shape.
I’m made like that, to help spell Cat
And Cow and Cool and Cape.”
“He’s right” said E; said F, “Whoopee!”
Said G, “‘Ip, ‘Ip, ‘ooray!”
“You’re dropping me,” roared H to G.
“Don’t do it please I pray.”
“Out of my way,” LL said to K.
“I’ll make poor I look ILL.”
To stop this stunt J stood in front,
And presto! ILL was JILL.
“U know,” said V, “that W
Is twice the age of me.
For as a Roman V is five
I’m half as young as he.”
X and Y yawned sleepily,
“Look at the time!” they said.
“Let’s all get off to beddy byes.”
They did, then “Z-z-z.”
̶ Spike Milligan
“You are never too old to set another goal or to dream a new dream.” ─ C.S. Lewis