Loneliness

"The eternal quest of the individual human being is to shatter his loneliness." ─ Norman Cousins

I have noticed that people I have worked with have a challenging time during the holiday season time of the year and cannot wait for the holidays to be over. Sometimes they sit with strong feelings of loneliness. Loneliness is a state of feeling cut off from and longing for connection, love, and heart. People may experience a lack of contact either physically or emotionally with others. Loneliness is not to be confused with solitude and a quiet time to reflect and restore their vitality. It is like being in solitary confinement. There are people who just have a disposition to be alone.

Loneliness causes people to question and ask themselves why am I here and why was I born, what is my purpose and life's mission, how can I discover my own niche in life that is a perfect fit for me? And it can change several times over a lifetime.

2 Types of Loneliness

Robert Weiss defined trait loneliness and state loneliness. State loneliness is about the situation and atmosphere a person is experiencing. Loneliness can happen to you by being in a strange place amongst strangers. When you leave home by going off to school, or on a trip by yourself can give you the feeling of being stranded in your lonely feelings. Trait loneliness consists of lonely feelings that begin within oneself and is not based on any situational experience. The person who endures trait loneliness may also be shy, feel awkward around others, and feel insecure. The loneliness of feeling invisible or misunderstood.



As time seems to move quickly, have you had any feelings or thoughts about your coming year? Are you wondering what is in store for you in the next year? Do you have an instinctual feeling, sense, or an insight as to your own personal direction in life?

Now is a suitable time, as is any time of the yearly cycle to contemplate your life's possibilities. Take a few moments to review your thoughts, feelings, dreams, and your insights by paying attention to what has floated in and out of your mind. 

Consider allowing yourself to be an intuitive visionary for your own life to fulfill your heart's desire. When you see, look, and listen to yourself, be aware if any answers to your questions come to you. Are the new thoughts and ideas that have come to you a nourishment that you need to feed your further investigation and exploration on your path?

"When you close your doors, and make darkness within, remember never to say that you are alone, for you are not alone; nay, God is within, and your genius is within. And what need have they of light to see what you are doing?" ─ Epictetus