Life’s tedious as a twice-told tale —William Shakespeare
Many of my clients have come into their session bored and have lost interest in what they are doing. Their job is tedious, unimaginative, and dreary. They look in the mirror and see themselves as bland, stodgy, and they appear stale to themselves. However, they are not depressed they are actually done with what they have been doing and are in “dullsville.”
Mental weariness is like “the tiresome chirping of a cricket” according to Mark Twain. Once a person knows all there is to know about their job or any current activity it becomes irritating and perhaps exasperating. Something new in life needs to happen. The purpose of their own ongoing annoying frustration is to signal to them that they are finished with their experience. If foresight and long-range planning for the next new activities have not been considered, then this is a good time to begin thinking about your future path. You can start to understand, interrelate, or correlate all the elements that are affecting your life now. The main purpose of sitting in this dead zone is for personal growth and self-development.
When you are in the doldrums, it is a good time to observe and study your life. This experience of world-weariness can cause you to look at where you have been, where you are now, and what needs to be done to remain in touch with yourself through your own self-awareness. Carl G. Jung a great psychiatrist and prolific writer about psychology of the mind said about boredom, “We do not cure it, it cures us.” Your personal feelings of limitation and resulting impatience can stir you to notice the inspiration, the new impulses, and the refreshing motivational urges that are coming up to you from your unconscious to make the necessary changes for your life’s progress.
The main point or idea is that you are in a position to understand your individual life and therefore, better able to work with your own decision-making process to make the necessary changes. New life is born of your personal experience. You have lived through certain things, and now you can proceed from your acquired understanding and perceived meaningfulness. However, the future is always different, and what happens in the future depends upon what is true at that time. Therefore, you must keep your mind open and flexible. You only know what you know, and that is not everything. Continue to examine yourself and see what could be improved, even if your life is satisfactory now. What is it that you need to overcome your disenchantment, which is a loss of interest and an emotional demotivation that lets in burnout and then boredom?
Signs and Symptoms of Disenchantment-Burnout-Boredom
-Enchantment is burned out
-Running out of steam
-A lack of any positive results
-Feeling mental and emotional exhaustion
-Don’t feel like working
-Feeling loss of self or self-respect
-Feeling disconnected from people places and things
-Not being able to accomplish or get things done
Here are a few ways to work with boredom and disenchantment.
1. All types of play, games, and fun relieves the stress of boredom.
2. Any form of expressive art from painting, scrapbooking to knitting will help stir up your imagination and give you some relief.
3. Exercise and all forms of movement such as dancing, swimming, and going into the gym to work out will help.
4. Pay attention to your dreams. What are they showing you about your life?
The word “happiness” would lose its meaning if it were not balanced by sadness. ─Jung